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Dear Anonymous,

It certaiIt certainly could mean that…. How are your conversations when you are talking?

Detailed? Connective? Bright & flowing?


I can tell you this, if you are excited to talk to someone you open their messages and actively seek to reply. That’s not to say that this isn’t going to happen from time to time, we all get busy! We have lives! We have stuff on! We work, have families, kids, friends of our own.


Sometimes we will see a message, get distracted forget, or put it aside for later. Sometimes we don’t see it. Sometimes it can just wait. This happens and it’s normal, you can expect someone to always reply in an instance.


But if there’s someone in your life your excited about whether that be a friend, family or someone your delving deeper with.. If there is an interest, they will open and reply and there will be a consistency in it.


I think what you need to ask yourself is, is this regular? Is this disrespectful? Is this what you want & deserve?


That is not to say that someone not feeling like replying to you and you not being a priority to them is disrespectful to you, each to their own, the person on the other side of this has every right to not feel invested in the conversation…. As we build friendships and relationships we are all going to come across instances where click more with some than others.nly could mean that…. How are your conversations when you are talking?

Detailed? Connective? Bright & flowing?


I can tell you this, if you are excited to talk to someone you open their messages and actively seek to reply. That’s not to say that this isn’t going to happen from time to time, we all get busy! We have lives! We have stuff on! We work, have families, kids, friends of our own.


Sometimes we will see a message, get distracted forget, or put it aside for later. Sometimes we don’t see it. Sometimes it can just wait. This happens and it’s normal, you can expect someone to always reply in an instance.


But if there’s someone in your life your excited about whether that be a friend, family or someone your delving deeper with.. If there is an interest, they will open and reply and there will be a consistency in it.


I think what you need to ask yourself is, is this regular? Is this disrespectful? Is this what you want & deserve?


That is not to say that someone not feeling like replying to you and you not being a priority to them is disrespectful to you, each to their own, the person on the other side of this has every right to not feel invested in the conversation…. As we build friendships and relationships we are all going to come across instances where click more with some than others.


But if you are getting to know someone, and you are more interested than them, or they are just not that interested… Are you being disrespectful to yourself by tolerating that? By making that okay? By accepting it…


I am not saying go into attack mode, but no one knows what you are thinking unless you speak up either.. Maybe you have different styles? I know I work from my phone, so its glued to my hand for 99% of the day, if I got a message and didn’t reply for hours it would be weird!! If my bestie messages me I open it! If I see something I know isn’t that important I might wait until after work or if it’s something I know I need to do or think about, I will keep it closed to remember to do it…. But if I am interested, or excited about something or someone I open the message & I reply, and this goes for most of the people I know in our own times…. Some people though may not pick it up for 5 hours… But the real question is when they do, are the thinking of you? Are they responding to you?


& if not, is this a game of power they are trying to win with you being the one making an effort? - One sided effort feels like shit, and it should never be put onto one person in texting, dating or life!


OR are they just not that interested?


Are you not that much of a priority to them at this stage?


It’s not necisarilly wrong or wrong for them, but it may not be right for you.


If you like this person and you’re not feeling it, be straight with them a simple Hey, its a bit weird that…….. it makes me feel a bit like………. With no expectations or aggression would work… Then you know there’s a real reason, and you’re considered?


Or they’re just not that into you.


In which case if either doesn’t feel right to you, or align with how you feel, what you want and deserve, then you just need to decide whether you value yourself enough to recognise that, & move on to finding the people in your life who value you and all you are as well as what you truely deserve.


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