I would ask, does this keep coming up for you?
Is this the first time you have thought about this?
I would guess probably not if you have reached out to me here.. Inside you already know the answer.. If this is what is coming up for you and you feel you need some type of acknowledgement or affirmation from someone outside of your self to back you in with what you are thinking in order for you to feel enough strength and certainty to take that step; then just know you are loved, you are supported, you are important, and there are people who are here for you no matter what you decide.
Personally the last thing I want to hear from someone close to me is drop that dude, he is not good enough for you… I don’t want someone to make it easy; build me up and pull them down…. BUT I do want to feel loved, cared, supported in what ever decision I make for myself & I do feel its very important to realise what we are telling ourselves because deep down we already know the answer.. There may be parts of us that argue that point but overwhelmingly the thought will either be there or continue to arise louder and louder and louder.
& this goes for a lot more than just break ups…
But in this instance if you say to your self;
Is it time to end my relationship your split second instinct will give you the answer…. It will say yes or no… It’s all the other stuff the follows that often prevents us from following through..
For instance if you heart says yes, followed by your head saying;
But what if shouldn’t?
What if I cant ever be happy with out him/her
What If they find someone else and all the issues we had just aren’t an issue with them and that could have been us?
What if it’s the wrong choice?
What if I regret it?
What if it hurts?
What if the life I am used to just isn’t the same afterwards?
Can I afford it?
Where will I go?
What will I do?
Who will I be?
SOOOOOOOOOO much could come up, but its the split second instinct that gut feeling before all the what if’s and buts kick in that often represents your true feelings, and what is right for you.
No it doesn’t mean it will be easy, it doesn’t mean it won’t be confronting, hard, scary, heart breaking…..
But I can say when you don’t follow that voice in one way or another, over time it will get louder and louder and louder, and harder to ignore…
Only WE know what is right for ourselves, only WE know when, who, why, what?
I don’t suggest you listen to me, I suggest you take the time to listen to YOU!!
& pay attention to your heart, your instincts, your intuition & your gut BEFORE you let all the logic, reason, & fear sink in.
You are loved, you are supported and you ARE worthy of everything you desire.